Wretched Mind

I am torn. Torn by the wretched mind.
Good thoughts, bad thoughts. It’s one of a kind.
Tug of war. Good and evil. No, no solution did I find.
Trouble, trouble. It has me blind.
Vacillating thoughts, do you mind?
Give me peace. Don’t let me grind.

Farewell

Oh trusted friend,
Give me thine heart,
Be the moon in my hour of darkness,
How kind thee, faithful and free,
Thou art my friend, how can I tell?
The sorrows deep within,
Boundless as ocean, as vast as mountains,
Can hold no more,
This ghastly storms of emotions,
I am left hazy eyed,
As you roar away to a faraway place.
How I wish to smile once more,
HELD in the warm embrace of thy heart,
I am wretched.

Disdained I look away finding ridiculous,
THE tears rolling away as easily as water,
For I know I will miss you all the more.
FAREWELL, oh trusted friend,
How I wish to be in your warm embrace,
TO TELL ME it’s okay, everything will be all right,
WHEN life knocks you down you are going to get up.
FAREWELL TO THEE, my friend,
In your trust, I found my solace,
IN YOUR BELIEF, I rise up,
IN your Kindness, I find PEACE,
IN your laughter, I found MINE,
WHERE shall I get once you are gone?

Necessity of self esteem

People do feel unworthy, neglected and ignored. Self-castigating behaviour is seen in every individual. But for some it affects their performance. Their work, study, and in other social settings.  They fail to regard themselves as worthy. Our personality is warped.

Self-esteem is the values I place upon myself. It is the evaluation of your worth and capabilities. According to Branden, self-esteem is the sum of self-confidence (a feeling of personal capacity) and self-respect (a feeling of personal worth). It is pertinent that children and adults alike have a healthy self-esteem — it’s a means by which we can succeed in our personal growth and success.

Firmer self-confidence and feeling of self-worth gives us the foundation for a bigger, meaningful and an enriched life. We cannot, therefore, underestimate the importance of self-esteem. It impacts our lives in multitude. Perchance, self-esteem is the yardstick that measures our success.

Having good self-esteem gives you vigour and vitality — an addition of value to your personality. It’s like adding value to your product. The product being yourself. The idea that you are a worthy member of family, societies and nation is an indicator that you will not falter in your duties and responsibilities — then you are not afraid. When you think you are worthy, you become a creative source of being. You exude radiance. With good self-esteem you innovate, and you create.

When you believe that you are worthy of happiness, you feel worthy of respect. Most of the time the happiness we seek remain elusive. I have heard many a tale saying, that they deserve bad things. Blaming yourself and remaining adamant, that you deserve the worse is ludicrous. How do you alter this mentality?

We need to take a deep look into those thoughts that we feed our mind. Feeling good about ourselves is also a practice — something that we can learn. We need to believe that we are worthy of happiness. These shift in mental faculties will lead to more enriched life. Believe me, you thwart your success. Don’t stonewall yourself to not believing.

I have friends who feel pessimistic about everything — as if the whole world is against them. That is a powerful mentality because they don’t think they can do it. As you sow so shall you reap. As simple as that. But we complicate it. Our troubles are self-inflicted. Yes, we are vulnerable. Yes, we falter. Yes, we fail. But failure is never fatal and success never final. What matter most is that you stand up when you fall down.

Do not feed your mind with negative thoughts. Be positive. I am sure that much we can do. Circumstances don’t control you. Your family’s condition is your least of worries. Your morale, how you view yourselves have a greater impact than any other things combined. In totality, it’s your mentality that is going to propel you to success or in an opposite direction.

Your self-esteem is not innate. As a child, we were not afraid. We felt that we could do almost everything. I did. There were no limitations but as we grow older we have become like any other human beings; self-negating, conscious and castigating.

The cure to our low self-esteem is to belief that we are worthy. It gives you confidence and morale boost. It gives you the wheel of your life. As Nathaniel Branden wrote about self-esteem importance: “Positive self-esteem is important because when people experience it, they feel and look good, are effective and productive, and they respond to others and themselves in healthy, positive, growing ways. Know, that they are lovable and capable and care about themselves and other’s. They do not have to build themselves up by tearing others down or by patronizing less competent people”.

Don’t lose faith in yourself. Belief.

Having good self-esteem gives you vigour and vitality — an addition of value to your personality. It’s like adding value to your product. The product being yourself. The idea that you are a worthy member of family, societies and nation is an indicator that you will not falter in your duties and responsibilities — then you are not afraid. When you think you are worthy, you become a creative source of being. You exude radiance. With good self-esteem you innovate, and you create.

When you believe that you are worthy of happiness, you feel worthy of respect. Most of the time the happiness we seek remain elusive. I have heard many a tale saying, that they deserve bad things. Blaming yourself and remaining adamant, that you deserve the worse is ludicrous. How do you alter this mentality?

We need to take a deep look into those thoughts that we feed our mind. Feeling good about ourselves is also a practice — something that we can learn. We need to believe that we are worthy of happiness. These shift in mental faculties will lead to more enriched life. Believe me, you thwart your success. Don’t stonewall yourself to not believing.

I have friends who feel pessimistic about everything — as if the whole world is against them. That is a powerful mentality because they don’t think they can do it. As you sow so shall you reap. As simple as that. But we complicate it. Our troubles are self-inflicted. Yes, we are vulnerable. Yes, we falter. Yes, we fail. But failure is never fatal and success never final. What matter most is that you stand up, when you fall down.

Do not feed your mind with negative thoughts. Be positive. I am sure that much we can do. Circumstances don’t control you. Your family’s condition is your least of worries. Your morale, how you view yourselves have a greater impact than any other things combined. In totality, it’s your mentality that is going to propel you to success or in opposite direction.

Your self-esteem is not innate. As a child, we were not afraid. We felt that we could do almost everything. I did. There were no limitations but as we grow older we have become like any other human beings; self-negating, conscious and castigating.

The cure to our low self-esteem is to belief that we are worthy. It gives you confidence and morale boost. It gives you the wheel of your life. As Nathaniel Branden wrote about self-esteem importance: “Positive self-esteem is important because when people experience it, they feel and look good, are effective and productive, and they respond to others and themselves in healthy, positive, growing ways. Know, that they are lovable and capable and care about themselves and other’s. They do not have to build themselves up by tearing others down or by patronizing less competent people”.

Don’t lose faith in yourself. Belief.

Youths are the solution: Bhutan needs to rethink its policies

Youths are the solution, not the problem. It’s interesting to note that youths are seen as the future of the country as well as a problem creator. Former boost the morale of the youth but the later downgrades any credibility youths have. The unemployment problem and consequences thereof have been deterring the active participation of youth in decision-making and planning. It has dissuaded and made the youth reckless, making them vulnerable and susceptible to peer pressure. These usually leads juvenile delinquencies, drug problems and other youth related crimes. While we pride ourselves saying that Bhutan is a nation advocating gross national happiness as the principal developmental goal with the aim of increasing happiness and spiritual wellbeing of its people. But the truth is farfetched and incredulous.

The recent news giving the police the ultimate authority to frisk youth if found suspicious is under no circumstance acceptable. The youths err in various sphere of life. It’s true. Everyone starts pointing fingers. But nobody is even seeing the perspective of that helpless youth. Most youths who are committing such crimes are reportedly said that they come from a troubled family. But did the government gave them enough support. Without support and care, they have less hope.

People are mostly supercilious and adamant to give the necessary support. Our society fails to see the need to support the youths. Young boys and girls are supposed to study and get the a job, settle down. But it isn’t the case now. Government are failing to create sufficient jobs. Youths are given false hope. The requirement of teachers in the government school was so less. The trainee were informed that shouldn’t expect the job as they complete their training. But while they joined the college, it was their hope that will get the job as soon as they pass out. Who do we blame? Isn’t that a crime to give them false security?

How do we tackle this problems facing our youths today? It won’t be solved within a year. It needs due diligence and consideration while planning and implementing the plans. We need to foresee the changes we are going to have. Long term goals shouldn’t rest on the whims and fancy of our political leaders. We need youths in decision-making bodies. Given the chance I am sure the youth will perform their job well.

If we frisk them, we further alienate them. How do we tackle the youth problem? Frisking youth won’t help.

Au revoir: until we meet again!

I can see your smile,
From a distant mile,
Just as you know,
I like to show,
Every bits of me,
Everything that I can be,
When around you.

Memories are etched,
Yet you are going,
Will become far-fetched,
Without seeing,
Gone will be you,
Faraway and will be true.

Yet I will live with hope,
Until we meet again,
Shall keep you in my heart,
Forever, till the end!

Our thoughts and desires: just random

We desire and want things for ourselves. We do things for our own selfish reasons. We commit sins day in, day out and we become ruthless in protecting what is ours. If it isn’t right we find reasons to defend it. It hurts our ego.

In a lifelong marathon of trivial pursuit, seeking wealth and fame, we delve deeper into material gains and how so to glean in more and more to ourselves. We hardly have time to introspect our thoughts, bad or good we keep clutching onto it, replaying again and again until it manifest itself.

Thoughts, experts, say are things. They have energy which manifest itself whether good or bad according to your culminating thoughts. In here, laws of attraction comes into play. It isn’t like magnet pole where opposite attracts opposite instead positive thoughts manifest positive results.

So, it is good time to reaffirm ourselves to do good things. Think positive. Cultivate some virtues. And more importantly to do things that will help others: not for our own selfish reasons. Help and share our love to those poor and less fortunate than us.

Time and again we are reminded of impermanence and we have been taught the essentials of life, a good life, but we are human. We have our imperfections but we can try to be more nicer, more better than yesterday. Real meaning of life comes from sharing your love, kindness and care.

We are all unique, lets contribute to our society in our own small way, however minute may be if we could bring little smile on the less fortunate ones it’s leap forward for a better future.

Life is good when we care. Lets care and usher to be a better self than our previous self. Lets be more humane. Life will become lot easier and peaceful. And lets keep our face radiant with our beautiful smiles. It doesn’t a cost a penny.

Seasons change!

Season change, leaves wither,
Flowers wilt, soon it dies,
However beautiful may be,
In a fleeting moment,
It breathe it’s last,
So shall we,
Warriors and conqueror of the world,
When time comes, we too shall,
Leave this land, this place called home,
Once dear will be forgotten,
What is yours shall not be yours,
But you shall have these memories,
The good and the bad,
So shall we say the eulogy,
How you lead your life?
This is not so bad,
Lets cultivate some virtues,
While we can still change,
And be the virtuoso,
We are always meant to be!

My mother!

My mother is a wonderful woman. You would like her. You will see her always beaming with unmistakable radiance of guidance, care and love. Her kindness is deeply rooted in her action. She is the angel, I’m bestowed with. I wanna tell her how lucky I’m to be born her son. Your life is a constant reminder of how a mother sacrifice her life for the benefit of her children. Never hurting and never complaining, only giving love and tender heart of yours to those around.

I hear your cries of pain and suffering. But yet you carry the burden inside you without a second thought. A compassionate human being with immense strength, your love showers me the truth, and a telling heart that never means to hurt.

You have permanently gained space in my heart, you are too gentle, too loving a human on earth, sometimes I feel how much a person can give and never receive? You are the goddess I pray to every day. If god is alive, you are unmistakably the goddess for me.

Mothers day, as everybody remembers it, I would to like wish her a warm and happy mothers day. You had protected, loved and cared more than anyone else. You have been always on a giving end. You have my unending love and respect. I love you mom. Yours always, son!

But you see, my mother doesn’t read, she has never been to school like most modern mothers did. I want the world to know her through me, for she is the world to me!

Be my friend!

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Why don’t you understand?

My heart is still crying,
Why don’t you understand,
You made me feel complete,
Deep within my heart,
You are imprinted,
For I still need you.

I have this feeling,
Surging within my heart,
Come back within my grip,
For I need you ever more,
Why don’t you try,
Give me this second chance,
I have this one battle,
Why is it I feel, I lost,
Even before it began.

I need you to turn back,
Say, you will be there,
Here with me, till the end,
Deep into the lonely night,
Fighting to the last,
The journey of life,
Of you and me…to it’s eternal bliss!

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